Happy Halloween from the Rovangs!!!!
Friday, October 30, 2009
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
Saturday, October 17, 2009
My hands and arms are so sore today. I spent 2 hours combing out Molly's dreadful hair. If you know AA hair you will get my play on words. It was such a mess. I wish she would take better care of it. So after I got it all combed out I put some conditioner and hair oil on it and made her wear a shower cap to bed. We will be doing this every night from now on. I am still looking for the right product for her type of hair. Her curls are so very tight and dry. But I know one thing I won't spend 2 straight hours combing it out again.
This is Hannah's newest doodle. She drew this while Molly, dad and I played Wii last night. I think it is pretty good for a 4 yr. old.
We spent yesterday morning running between kids activities. Hannah had swimming lessons that end just when Molly needs to be at the church for cheer leading. Ron was on call but was able to get away and pick Molly up and take her to cheer leading. Hannah is the youngest and by far the littlest kid in her swimming lessons but she swims circles around them all. This kid is going to have a tough time choosing what she wants to be in because she is good at everything. As far as Molly's cheer leading, she LOVES it and is by far the loudest cheerleader out there...Go Molly.
Just a quick update on how things have been going lately I have to say give me a G, give me a R, give me a E, give me a A, give me a T. What's that spell? GREAT. I really can't explain it, but it is like a switch has been flipped and things are just normal. Molly's behavior has been very pleasant. I am no longer anxious about how she might react to our saying no to something or asking her to do something that previously would have turned into a Molly meltdown. Yes, she still has 10 yr.old moments but she recovers extremely quickly and we are all happy again. All things considered are transition has been pretty smooth. I know that there are a lot of families that have had to tackle way more issues than our minor, very short lived and very easily corrected with simple discipline. I have to say Molly is a great kid and I have such respect for how she has adjusted in such a short time. I truthfully at her age, thrust into her circumstances over the last few years, would be a big bawling baby everyday mixed in with a bit of anger. Molly is a lovely young lady and is very affectionate. Her and her sister love each other to pieces and it is so wonderful to see. What can I say except we are very blessed by the gift of adoption.
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
Six months ago Mahlet said goodbye to the transition house and became a part of our family forever. It was such an emotional day. I was happy that she was finally joining our family forever but I was also crying as I watched her say goodbye. She had grown very close with all her nannies, staff and children. Many tears were shed throughout the day. But I remember the worst was when it was time to leave all the families were on the bus and all the staff and children were gathered outside to say goodbye. Everybody was crying as they watched Mahlet say goodbye and kiss and hug every child (I'm crying now as I think back). She cried almost all the way back to our hotel. But she recovered quickly once we reached our room and she saw all her new clothes. It is fun remembering our time in Ethiopia. Can't wait to go back some day.
Yesterday we had our 6 months post placement visit with our social worker. It was nice seeing her again. She has been on this journey with us since 2005 when we adopted Hannah and we love her. I did request she visit prior to Molly getting home from school as she has issues about us talking about her behavior in front of other people. It went really well even after Molly arrived after school. So once she gets her report done we can start the process of re-adopting Molly. This is required so she can become a U.S. citizen.
As of tonight I am sicker than a dog. Body aches, lungs hurt, neck hurts, throat hurts, can't breathe. And guess what...MY STUPID TOE IS STILL HURTING.
I know that God is good and am so thankful for my children and the best husband.
Monday, October 5, 2009
Molly finished her soccer season this past weekend. Her team got beat both games on Saturday so didn't have to play on Sunday. Molly was pretty happy about it as the weather sucked this weekend...cold and rain make for miserable soccer games for everyone involved.
A little update on how things are going with us. Molly's behavior is improving each day although we still have a Molly meltdown from time to time it is much better than it used to be. She has really become close with Ron as she never knew her birth father and he is not replacing anybody. It has been harder for her with me. She knew her birth mother until she was nearly 7 yrs. old and loved her dearly. So our relationship is taking a bit more work. It has been kind of strange as the first 3 months home she was really tight with me and then the behavior became very disrespectful. I was not really understanding it until I sat down and had a few talks with her about her birth mother. After each talk her behavior toward me has improved. She is really missing her birth mother and having a hard time with me being her new mother. I completely understand how hard it is for her but at the same time I have to be honest, I feel hurt and jealous of her relationship with Ron. That being said I am also happy about the relationship that she is cultivating with her father, and it makes me happy to see Ron being such a good father to a this young girl. I can accept that Molly needs time to develop a mother/daughter relationship with me it is just hard. Don't get me completely wrong she is a wonderful girl and I get lots of love and affection from her and I give back. I guess losing my mother gives me a better understanding of what Molly is experiencing.
OK Gotta leave it at that....bed issues with the girls.